Meet Stephanie

Hi, I’m Stephanie Roese, founder of Unseen Scars. I spent decades wondering if I was the problem. I wasn’t. Once I learned the names for what was happening to me, I could finally see it clearly.

I built this quiz to help you tell ordinary conflict apart from the kind of control that convinces you it’s your fault. More than 500 people have taken it so far.

I’m the creator of Decoding Covert Abuse: The Complete Bundle and the author of the Unseen Scars Workbook: A Self-Help Guide to Heal From Emotional Neglect, Gaslighting and Narcissistic Abuse, rated 4.8 stars on Amazon.

My work draws on researchers and clinicians including Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Dr. Jennifer Freyd and Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, and I name every source so you know where the ideas come from.

Dr. Sue Myllykangas, a professor at Northwest Missouri State University, has proposed using my work in a new graduate Trauma-Informed Care program they’re building. In her words: “Textbooks give you research results; your work gives trauma a human side.”

I’m not a therapist, and this quiz isn’t a diagnosis. It’s a starting point, from someone who’s been where you are. I want to help you get there faster than I did.